OK, so my “Obesity and Disability” post had some people sending me messages telling me that I have no business talking about being overweight because “You (Me) aren’t big enough”. So let me ask you how big do I need to be to discuss fat? I mean fat itself is a molecule, being fat means an excessive amount of the molecule, but you can be skinny and be fat.
My ex once talked about this thin girl he dated who was like mush. She had an extremely active metabolism but never worked out a day in her life, nor did she eat healthy. This girl I’m sure will end up with multiple health issues.
Now women like myself are seen as lazy. Since we only have 30-50 lbs to lose we end up being told that we should just work harder and eat better. However, those with 100-200 to lose are seen to have a “condition”. My weight gain is obviously by choice while theirs is not…it’s genetic or something. (Sarcasm)
Yes, absolutely genetics plays into it..like I said I’m not a thin person and I’m only 5ft..so 5 lbs on me is like 25 lbs on a woman who is 6ft…..
Let me also say this…me losing the 30 lbs does not even begin to put me into the range of the “proper” BMI, but that does not affect me why? Because of muscle content. I am not losing weight..I’m becoming healthy. There is a difference. The weight will be lost when my body is ready to shed the fat from my fat cells after I’ve accomplished a healthy lifestyle. Anything else becomes dangerous. Anything greater than a couple lbs a week becomes dangerous…working out for longer than an hour a day can become dangerous. There are many reasons why…I can scientifically explain why losing large amounts of fat in a minute time frame is actually very dangerous (basically all the toxins released into the blood) but I will refrain from that unless specifically asked too..perhaps that is the next blog post! lol
In our society it has become bad social protocol to discuss something that you are not. I am white, so i can not talk about the African American Community. If you are not disabled then you can not talk about a disability. Since I am not grotesquely obese then obviously I can not talk about fat.
But why? Why does ANY of that make sense….and please if you have an answer give it to me, because I honestly don’t know.
But telling me I’m not fat enough is jut going to spur me giving more discussions on this subject which will likely piss more people off.
I am one of those people that you really like or really hate, there truly is not a middle ground with me. I think it’s because my thoughts coming spewing out of my mouth at the speed of gravity…probably not the speed of light because I’ve already gotten distracted from what I was saying! lol
Anyhow, no matter who you are or how you look you should be able to discuss any issue you want to openly and honestly without condescending viewpoints attacking you; however, this is the interwebs age and we are definitely more about telling someone how they are wrong for their opinion more than how they are great at expressing it.
I have always felt like you have to OWN your feelings…FEELINGS are not a sin to have….how you ACT upon your feelings can leave consequences…each choice, each act, each moment has a consequence whether that consequence is good, bad, ugly, fearful, devastating, blissful, or just plain life wrecking. Once you begin to own how you feel you can begin to fully account for your actions…all of them…and enjoy your life once more….It is important to remember that nobody and I do mean NOBODY can tell you how to feel…that’s between you, yourself, and you! YOU get to decide your feelings, so own them and let them shine!
Being confident in your own emotions and feelings will naturally pull others close to you and remember that if you are being 100% honest and someone backs away from you….you don’t need them anyway……
So signing off of here and leaving you with an adorable old pic of my kiddos, remember…you have only one life unless you are reincarnated, but if you know you are reincarnated then more power to you, but regardless..this life must be lived without restricting yourself through the reservations that others may put upon you..shed yourself of their controlling power and live the way you see fit!
Excuse the quality of the picture this was from a scan!